Confucius and digging up graves..

I could not sleep at all last night.. Here is why..

I watched Hany Abu Assad's film, "Paradise Now", the other day and kept thinking about the arguments the director made on both ends...

On one hand, it is clear that life in Palestine to many men and women is hopeless, senseless, and lacking of any goal but to end the occupation.

On the other hand, how can they ever surpass the powerful Israeli army forces if they keep killing themselves in suicide bombings?

Ironically the movie was attacked and censored by both the Palestinian Minister of Culture and a number of Israeli writers and groups (representing the victims of suicide bombings).

According to Wikipedia..

The filmmakers faced great difficulties making the film on location. A land mine exploded 300 meters away from the set. Whilst filming in Nablus, Israeli helicopter gunships launched a missile attack on a car near the film's set one day, prompting six crew members to abandon the production for good. Paradise Now's location manager was kidnapped by a Palestinian faction during the shoot and was not released until Palestinian President Yasser Arafat's office intervened. In an interview with the Telegraph, Hany Abu-Assad said, "if I could go back in time, I wouldn't do it again. It's not worth endangering your life for a movie"

I read that the chinese philosopher and reformer Confucius (551 BC - 479 BC) once said:
"Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves"

So, are we digging up our youth's graves everyday by implanting the ideas of self-sacrifice for one's nation? Or is this the only option given to people under occupation in our world?

And.. What do people under occupation have to say to that? Is this even eligible for consideration in our current state worldwide?